Your Softness, Celebrated

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

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Sensitivity, softness, tenderness, gentleness... these are words that are very near to my heart, for they compose a good amount of it. For so long, I believed the lie that these attributes are negative and should be avoided to live life well. Still, that is far from the truth, friends. Our softness is needed in this world. To mend and to grace and to love the brokenness that surrounds our lives and those around us. It is a gift that is lovely and beautiful. 

I could go on, but sometimes borrowed words say it far better than I ever could. Here are a few thoughts from some wise individuals who celebrate and encourage our softness amidst a rigid world. Without further ado,

"I'm sorry if anyone ever said you needed thicker skin. Or to toughen up, man up (ugh, I hate this one the most), or get it together. Your sensitivity is a gift the world is searching for. Where there is thin skin, there is tenderness. Where there is tenderness, there is empathy. Where there is empathy, there is love. Stay soft this week."

-Sammi Harvey, via @sammiharveyco

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"There are so many people who believe it is one or the other, softness or strength, when the truth is there is so much strength in being soft. The ability to go through life without turning cold is tough, and it takes a lot of courage."

-Leslie Tulip, via Darling Magazine

"Being tender and open is beautiful. As a woman, I feel constantly shhh'ed. Too sensitive. Too mushy. Too wishy washy. Blah blah. Don't let someone steal your tenderness. Don't allow the coldness and fear of others to tarnish your perfectly vulnerable beating heart. Nothing is more powerful than allowing yourself to be truly affected by things."

-Zooey Deschanel

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"I begin with an open heart, being honest about how I feel and what affects me, but then releasing it, handing it over to someone and something much bigger than me. This is both freeing and comforting. I wasn't made to carry too much weight, nor was I made to carry all the luggage alone. When I grab onto bitterness, it's as if I'm refusing to let someone else carry the bags for me; it creates more work and ultimately more pain. [...] There's a beauty in softness - a simple beauty that's both powerful and inviting. It's often the harder choice, but it's the wholehearted choice."

-Tori Schaulis, via


Oh, to be tender and soft and sensitive. I always have referred to it lovingly as a blessing and a curse, but learning that is more so the first. It is blessing to feel deeply, love deeply and be affected by life deeply. If you are are someone who resonates with this, a message from me to you: Keep being soft. Keep being tender. Keep being gentle and vulnerable and delicate. Here, you are celebrated.

Join the Conversation: Do you think of sensitivity and softness as a strength? And, how can we continue to show tenderness in the hard seasons of life?


  1. Joining the convo by saying that in the midst of the grappling voices of toughening up to always remember that we as Humans were made to be expressive in our vulnerabilities and to be touched by this life in the most tender of ways, If we truly don't feel then we limit our existence and deny the fullness of our being. We've got one life with one heart and yes I'm all for protecting your heart but in the same sense letting it experience life, because in its fragility there is a beautiful resiliency. I mean God was intentional in creating us as worshipful beings and our creator himself feels deeply. yet in equal complexities our feelings can also be consumptive and withhold us when they become our basis and reactionary. I guess in a way its all a balancing act & we've got to take the time and intention to search the contents of our heart and in that soul search know that with every thought and feeling to hold them captive and decide our response and then with wise consideration carry one. Thanks for sharing this piece and making it conversational!!

  2. Sometimes being soft results in a great loss of yours. People started to play with your feelings and take you for granted and then it becomes a habit.

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